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Refuse to Choose!: A Revolutionary Program for Doing Everything That You Love

Refuse to Choose!: Use All of Your Interests, Passions, and Hobbies to Create the Life and Career of Your Dreams - Barbara Sher Not sure if I'm a scanner, but it was an okay book to scan.Best advice (more on it below) -- the idea of the Good Enough Job. Also, that it's okay to explore lots of different subjects/things only for as long as they interest you, and then move on.Liked the advice on the "micro nervous breakdown": Go to a restroom where you can close the door and have some privacy. Pretend to cry (or shed a few tears if want/can)and sigh a few times. If you can't feel anything, pretend you're an overwhelmed 8 year old and silently say "somebody help me." Give yourself 2-3 moments to feel any sorrow that comes to the surface, silently release your feelings, and notice how your tension melts away. Sigh a different kind of sigh, signaling that's over. Stand up, walk out, wash your face.Of course, you'll have to do it more than once. Handling this feeling (of being overwhelmed) is like weeding your garden; you have to do whenever the new weeds pop up. But if you stay current [with clearing out these feelings], you'll find, over time, the garden becomes clearer. You'll become easygoing and patient more and more often. That's good for you and everyone around you. You'll be surprised at the other benefits, too. You'll be easier on yourself, for one thing. You'll be able to think calmly and find ways to lighten your load instead of ramping up the stress as you did before. p. 66-67Bag of tricks:-- make your mental to-do list and then cut it in half.-- get more help than you need (take advantage of whatever help you can)-- grab your time first (example of a woman writing a book who comes home(obviously she has a day job too), says hello to the family and then goes straight to her writing room for an hour. Then she comes out, changes clothes, and starts her family life). -- ignore everything but your favorite parts. Go for the reward that matters to you. You can probably do that in a matter of minutes. If you don't have any minutes, close your eyes, focus, and fantasize the best part for a full 30 seconds. You must keep your dreams alive and healthy until there is more time. -- learn to sort and dispose of what comes at you, fast. Urgent. Later. Someday. Not possible. Get help on it. Forget it. Etc. Make a big list of everything that interests you. Review the list and think about how long it would take for you to get what you want from each item. -- What do you really want to know about this area of interest?-- What would you most enjoy doing with that information (if you had a magic wand)?-- Who would you love to talk with about this subject if you could talk to absolutely anyone? -- Think about how much actual time would realistically be needed for you to be satisfied. p.81The interest index binderKeep the big list of all your interests. Then each sheet will have a different interest on it. The top entry would date and note of what interested you (book or article info, exhibit, event, etc.) and perhaps a brief note about the most compelling point or the most important question you had. Keep all your interests in one place, like an index. Could be done on a computer as well. The result: you'll stop worrying that you'll never be able to follow up on all your interests and will be able to continually revisit the most interesting ones. You won't be afraid of "losing" an interest either. "I never finish anything" chapter. The reason you stop when you do: you got what you came for. The whole process:Start small.Start now. Start everything.And don't bother to finish any of it. Ways to focus if you want to "finish"Use tempting new projects as a reward for finishing uninteresting ones.Bring in a buddy.Keep track of how far you've gotten. Work in short spring. Make a deal with yourself to finish, working in short sprints.And the big takeaway: The Good Enough Job. If a job isn't unpleasant, doesn't eat up more than 40 hours a week, pays well, and provides security -- it can give you the freedom to do all the things you love to do on your own time. People complain about unfulfilling jobs until they understand what the Good Enough Job actually is, and then they feel very different about them. p.136LTTL Learn, Try, Teach, Leave System. Will you stay forever? Here's the short answer: no. You know as well as I do that unless the job has variety and learning built into it, sooner or later you'll get bored, and if you're a Scanner, you have zero tolerance for boredom. Some tricks for some endurance:-- Set yourself the challenge of finishing your work early, and spend the rest of the time in private explorations that challenge you.-- Find a way to do interesting things for the company. Write the newsletter, organize events, set up a web page -- anything that will make the job more interesting. -- Take on the project of exploring the company culture. That can be interesting in itself but also useful for that screenplay you're writing. -- Use your job as your social life so you can dedicate yourself to a solitary passion after work. p.58-59The wall calendar poster.6 years out. Why 6? Because it's good to know you have 6 whole years to play with. Stand in front of the calendar and think of every project you really long to do (but not every one that you can think of). Which ones can you do soon? Which ones have to wait? Assign a different color to each activity and draw a band of color on the calendar in the time you hope to do it.You can change it frequently. Post it where you will see it many times a day. The 15 month goal calendar.A grid that showed at a glance what percentage of each goal had been accomplished. The rotating priorities chess board. 4 (or how many you want) velcro-backed stuffed squares, each a a different color, one for each of her passions, and moved them around like chess pieces. "Changing the order of what I'm working on actually feels good. When I look at the wall and see I've fallen behind in one of those areas, it becomes interesting!. p.152-3