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Teenagers Face to Face With Bereavement

Teenagers Face to Face With Bereavement - Karen Gravelle;Charles Haskins A collection of short quotes from 17 teens in a variety of bereavement situations: parents, siblings, friends, and a variety of stages/time from the event. What makes adolescent grief different -- basically having the regular teen issues of separating from their family, together with the grief issue that often drives people back to their families (or makes them feel guilty if they don't), or breaks apart the family, without the teen being able to work through the normal growth pattern.1. Stages of adolescent grief. "While similar to adult mourning, the process of adolescent grieving is different in some respects. For one thing, it appears to take most teenagers longer to truly begin to mourn. While adults generally experience the first year as the time of most intense pain, adolescents are frequently numb for at least part of this period. Eight months to a year later, when they are flooded with overwhelming and conflicting emotions, it can come as a surprise to everyone." p.4Part 2, the initial period2. Before the death (usually denial)3. When death strikes (shock, disbelief)4. The funeral5. Going back to school6. DepressionPart 3, When the numbness wears off7. Pain and anger8. Guilt and regret9. Feeling crazy /feeling suicidal10. When you weren't wild about them in the first place11. FriendsPart 4, Putting the family back together again12. Healing the wound after the death of a sibling!$> Rebuilding the family after the death of a parent!$> Holidays and anniversariesPart 5, Moving on15. New people / new places / new you16. Things that happened later that made it better17. Special messages:Talk to people, let it out.Don't feel that you have to cry. You shouldn't feel guilty if you don't cry. It will get better over time.You're not a bad person because you don't feel the pain right away.It's OK to feel selfish -- to feel sorry for yourself. All I can is that if you don't have anyone to talk to, find somebody to talk to. Or at least find something you can talk to, like your pet. Because it's the only way you can get it out. You can't keep it inside because if you do, it's just going to get worse and worse.It's going to hurt. And you are going to miss the person. Don't feel badly about being alive.The pain is not going to be like that forever. You shouldn't think you're crazy or that you are an awful person because you don't want to think about the person that died.It's important to know that your feelings are acceptable. Like I used to be really angry at my mother [for dying].You have to go on with your life. I felt guilty about that.